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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I don't dislike them - I barely know them. Some came to our wedding as kids (not my idea - they were on MIL's list)  - they didn't give a gift, their parents did. So they would essentially be collecting double gifts - from my inlaws and us, even though they/their parents only gave us 1 gift. That seems like an unfair financial burden to us when they themselves never had to spend a penny. And there are a lot of them - it adds up.

If I leave it up to DH, nothing will get done. Is it really MY personal responsibility?[/quote]

I don't care if you get them a gift or not, but do you realize how insanely petty you sound? You feel unfairly burdened because children, who have no jobs or income, did not purchase you wedding gifts, and now they might collect double gifts? To even have these thoughts is unhinged. Truly. I hope you do not express this sentiment to anyone in real life. It does not reflect kindly on you.

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I maybe wouldn't have gone with unhinged but I agree with the sentiment. OP, it's not their fault they were still kids when you got married. I'm sure your parents included you in a million gifts they bought over the years too. Being worried about double gifts and basing your decision on an event that happened years and years ago when your cousins were still little kids is incredibly petty.[/quote]

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