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[quote=Anonymous]NP here.  I think the OP probably sees that the majority of people do NOT recommend this path!  I agree 100 percent.

In my MIL's case, when she was 50, she married a man who was 65 years old.  It has worked out pretty well.  On the one hand, he has a stable pension and that has been a nice boost for her.  (She still works as a nurse practitioner, while he is retired and likes to golf, fish, etc.)  My MIL had lived in apartments on her own for several years after her earlier divorce, and she enjoys living in a house with her husband.  Marrying him made that more of an option.  She enjoys gardening and so I am glad they are able to have a single-family home.

Having said that, I think it has aged her to be married to a man 15 years older.  For example, a few years ago (when my MIL was just 62), we invited her to go out to museums with us in San Francisco.  She said "Remember, I am getting old."  What?!  She's always been active with camping and hiking, and now at 62 she was saying she's "getting old."

Also, with my own mom, I've noticed that she was great in her 60's and still very vibrant, healthy, etc.  She's still doing pretty great in her mid-70's, but I have noticed a big difference (even in her case with great health) between someone in their 60s and someone in their 70s.

OP -- you are only 38 years old.  You are actually quite young!!  If you were 58 years old, I'd say sure -- marry a 78-year-old!   But you are only 38 years old.

Try to aim a little bit higher!!  (And if it's his financial holdings that are part of the attraction, then just make sure to get a pre-nup that provides for you.)[/quote]

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