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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]For those who think the "divorce is contagious" argument is ridiculous[/b]:

"Divorce represents the dissolution of a social tie, but it is also possible that attitudes about divorce flow across social ties. To explore how social networks influence divorce and vice versa, we exploit a longitudinal data set from the long-running Framingham Heart Study. The results suggest that divorce can spread between friends. Clusters of divorces extend to two degrees of separation in the network. Popular people are less likely to get divorced, divorcees have denser social networks, and they are much more likely to remarry other divorcees. Interestingly, the presence of children does not influence the likelihood of divorce, but each child reduces the susceptibility to being influenced by peers who get divorced. Overall, the results suggest that attending to the health of one’s friends’ marriages may serve to support and enhance the durability of one’s own relationship, and that, from a policy perspective, divorce should be understood as a collective phenomenon that extends beyond those directly affected."

http://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=1490708
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I think this argument is ridiculous, because there are not enough divorces to make a happy couple split. While unhappy couples are much better off when they realize they have a viable option to leave a happier life.[/quote]

It is a pretty known societal trend, sorry that conflicts with your opinion. I think you are right when it comes to the happiest couples, they will never divorce. The question comes down to couples who are in a rough patch that they could have otherwise gotten through. MANY people would say that when they had young children their marriage wasn't at its strongest. So if you have 3 under 3 and you and DH are exhausted and two of your friends get divorced and you are stuck in the daily grind with young kids, less sex, less money, more irritability, life isn't what you thought it would be. Then their divorce makes something that was a theoretical option more real and you might be less willing to stick it out. Those couples are not necessarily happier after that.[/quote]

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