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[quote=Anonymous]I wouldn't automatically assume that this has to do with ADHD or anything on the spectrum.

I'm under the impression that this is typical of the teen brain.  I've got a 13 y.o. (NT) DD and it's unbelievable.  And like you, I've tried a variety of things (consequences) to get her on track.

One suggestion I've heard (from a pediatrician who specializes in tweens and teens) is to go in there, clean up the room and get it exactly the way you want it, then take a picture, and tape it up by the entrance to the door.  Then when you want your kid to clean up, you point to the picture.  When they say the room is cleaned up, you look at the mess and then point to the picture again.

The point being that they don't know what your definition of clean looks like, and (almost like a hoarder) they can't see their mess.

This sounds ridiculous, but omg, they are such space-cadets it's ridiculous.  A side example--yesterday I told my DD a plan for today where she needed to walk somewhere at a certain time (including "I cannot drive you") then told her again this morning, then again ten and again five minutes before she was to leave. I jumped in the shower.  Suddenly she was opening the door of the shower--"MOM!  We have to go!"

It was as if she had never heard me say she had to walk; big surprise!!!...they just don't process![/quote]

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