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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your H sounds like a total jerk. He is wallowing in his sense of being in control- you depending on him. 
Please please become independent any way you can![/quote]

I really agree with this advice, because I think the long-term picture here is not a good one for you and DS. You need to find groups in the area where you can volunteer and get work experience, or get a job through another means (teleworking or freelancing for a US-based company?). You need to find out what your options are regarding leaving him, which may require biding your time until he's relocated back stateside and/or laying some careful groundwork under your feet so that you have financial and emotional independence. Can you talk to your family about what's going on, to start involving them in a long-term plan?

Back to the short term, I think you need to focus on solutions to get you through the toddler years. For better or worse, I'm under the impression he feels he's "doing enough" by being the income generator and really doesn't want to do more. Sure you can fight with him about this, but I would not guess that fighting is going to make the short-term picture easier or better. So I personally think your short term plan is to step up and do "it all." If you are a SAH mom, you might schedule downtime/nap in midday to help ease this burden. If you need emotional support, I'd look to clergy, online forums, and your family/friends back home.

GL to you. I think there's a way out here, but it will take a lot of time.[/quote]

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