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[quote=Anonymous]I'm a professional coach in a high performance program (different sport).

I assume you're in a rec program. No professional/high performance coaches would tolerate this. And that is not to be controlling, but because it is a safety hazard and confusing to the kids. Only coaches should be giving them directions in the field of play. Hopefully you will be able to break this habit, otherwise, it's going to get your kid kicked off of teams in the future.

Even when I coach rec classes, I do not ask or need parents to tell their kids anything, whether related to behavior or skills. If some kind of health emergency comes up then obviously we will get the parent or call them, but I am talking about things like "keep your eyes on this or that." If a child cannot function in a group to the point where they cannot respond to directions related to their behavior or skill, then I tell the parent they are not ready for class and can try again in six months or do private lessons. This would usually relate to a child who has a condition affecting their development. Otherwise, I can give all the directions needed for the child to participate in the class. If the parent is yelling other directions, it distracts the entire class or team and poses a safety hazard for their child because they may be telling them something wrong (actually that's the understatement of the century because at least in my sport there's a 99% chance they're telling their child something that's at best irrelevant). You may think you are "helping" but you aren't - you're just teaching your child not to listen until you intervene.

So, I simply don't tolerate it and I let parents know up front the reasons why they cannot do this. Usually the people who do this don't realize that it actually negatively impacts their child. It interferes with them forming a trusting relationship with their coach. Ultimately they will never get anywhere unless you are a professional coach yourself when they tell professionals "but my mom/dad says I should..." No professional will touch this with a ten foot pole because the kid will not respect you, it will distract your entire team, and pose a safety/liability hazard. 
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