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My dear OP, this is going to be a tough few years. Either:

1. You have been criticizing your sister for her entire life and she can't take it any more;
2. Or you have acted within the range of normal and your sister is going through a rebellious phase which includes dating a boyfriend her parents would not approve of AND rejecting her older sister whom she perceives as belonging to the same camp;
3. Or a little of both.

My guess is 3. It's a little bit your fault, a little bit hers, and more importantly, a clash of cultures. 
The rebellion an American teen raised in the US would have experienced in middle or high school is starting to come out now, when your sister is slightly older, because she had to work through a lot more elder respect and cultural submission to authority - I'm just guessing, and I apologize if this is not the case.

So give her space, and like PPs said, maybe write a letter she can refer to in the future. Be very kind, but don't apologize for things if you feel you weren't at fault - just express deep regret that she felt criticized and belittled. Be even kinder than you feel she deserves. It never hurts. Note that she might take years to process and understand all of this, particularly if she's not very bright to begin with, and especially if her new boyfriend and friends are anti-Muslim and against your culture.

Good luck. Hang in there.
And stop criticizing people openly.

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