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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm the poster who has written in the past about having a younger muslim sister who is secretly dating a white guy without my family knowing or approving. Since the discovery, I have told her that I do not necessarily support her choices but I don't want to hinder her romance so I decided not to get involved in her love life and haven't been in touch with her for 4 months. I have reached out since to ask if she's okay and if she wants to get together but she has consistently ignored my calls and refused to meet or engage with me.She has blocked me from social media and so have her friends and her cutting me off has hurt me deeply. Last night, I went to visit her after 4 months of her not speaking to me. It was a nightmare. She started screaming, yelling and crying about how I am a terrible person and how she always felt stepped upon by me. She says she has been absolutely miserable in my company and how all she had been praying for was to get away from me and disengage herself from me. She wants nothing to do with me and will never forgive me for what I have done to her. I was flabbergasted and asked her what my crimes were and if my offense was not approving of her secret boyfriend.

She said it wasn't about the boyfriend but little stuff. How When we'd go to Chick fil a and she'd order a salad, I would ask, "why are you getting a salad?" I was so confused and told her it was [b]because you go to Chick fil a to eat a burger and fries, not a salad[/b] and it was just a question. Another example she provided was of a few summers ago when she randomly started running and apparently I asked her, "why do you want to start running?" I responded by explaining that as someone who wasn't athletic, I was curious about why she had suddenly taken up running. Was it because of weight loss? Training for a marathon? Physical health?

She groaned and said I do not get her and I never get it and I obviously hate her so she hates me and never wants to see my face again. Our relationship is over and she never wants me in her life again.

I spent the night crying my eyes out due to her vicious character assassination. What can I even do?

p.s. We are Kuwaiti immigrants so the boy-issue has to do with our family not approving of it.[/quote]

Actually, you go to Chick-Fil-A to eat whatever food from the menu you want.  You have a lot of pretty black-and-white ideas about how people are supposed to act, and it sounds like you question your sister's choices constantly--about everything from food to boyfriends.  And every time you tell yourself that "it's just a question" or "you're just curious."  But being questioned about everything you do by someone that you know doesn't approve of you or respect your choices is awful.  She doesn't want to talk to you, and you just go over to her house anyway.  Your posts ooze with you dislike of your sister.  You've pretty much never written one nice thing about her.  You obviously want to be the "good sister" and the innocent victim in all this, and nothing that anyone says seems to make a dent in that, but, while I'm sure that your sister is far from perfect, you might consider that if she's defensive and angry it's at least in part because you are constantly needling her.

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Actually you don't go to Chick-Fil-A for a burger OP. Sweet Jesus. You go for chicken nuggets. You've been criticizing your sister while you've been doing it all wrong yourself. So messed up. I'd cut you off too if you were my sister. [/quote]

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