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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mother does this.

People who fake or play up illness do it in order to get "secondary gains."  Secondary gains are attention and extras and not having to work or do chores.

Eliminate the secondary gains.  Completely.

When your mom falls ill, she cannot watch TV, because that would be bad for her extremely delicate ill condition.  She cannot have soda -- that would upset her stomach.  She has to be driven RIGHT AWAY to the ER, by you, or an ambulance called RIGHT NOW.  You will need to warn her that the closest ER or minute clinic has a wait time of at least three hours, but that's okay, because her illness is extremely grave and important.  She doesn't want to go?  Well, let's get her into bed right away then, with the lights out.  No TV or books or snacks for someone as sick as she obviously is.

What, she's feeling better?  Wonderful!  What a miraculous recovery. You have a list of chores for her now that she's well.  You'd like her to run to the grocery store since she's able to tolerate snacks.  No?  Well, then back to bed or immediately to the clinic.

Perhaps she'd be better off at home?  You could understand that, her own doctor should really be attending to her.[/quote]

This totally works for my dad. I ALWAYS tell him to immediately call an ambulance, check himself into a hospital, get a full body CAT, etc. television will only make his condition worse, and I'm happy to whip up a salt-free organic chicken broth while we have his favorite meal in the next room. You'd be surprised at how quickly he recovers!

My MIL on the other hand would LOVE this. She insisted that she had Lyme disease, frozen shoulder, a heart condition (generalized), hypothyroidism, and it goes on. I tried this route on her and it made her so happy and only fed her addition to attention.  However, she did it so often that her insurance (Kaisers) has basically flagged her as attention seeking and crazy. I will never forgot the day a doctor told her "you do not have hypothyroidism, you are looking for ways to lose weight. Your main problem is that you want a magic pill to bring your youth back."  Yes he was out of line but I silently screamed with laughter.

My point is that even if they love the attention at first, a medical professional may read them the riot act and embarrass the f*ck out of them in front of their family. [/quote]

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