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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Two years ago, I had an emotional affair with a co-worker. It mostly consisted of texting, no touching at all. My husband discovered it by going through my phone. 
I immediately quit the job and cut off all contact. Forced my husband months later to please go to counseling with me.

To this day he brings it up almost daily. He is still angry and doesn't trust me. I don't go out anymore with friends, my phone has no password on it. I don't know what to do. How long do I keep letting him demean me and talk angry to me? We have only had sex three times in 2 years.

I want to stay married but I don't know how long I can let his behavior go like this. We don't talk at all nicely to eachother. Its just anger. [/quote]

Honestly, he isn't moving on at all, is he? I had an affair affair, and while we are not past it in any sense of the word, we don't talk about it every day. I think we both think about it every day, maybe. But it doesn't have to be a focal part of the day. But for us it has been 18 months or so.

Are you still angry at him? I have to say, counseling has helped a great deal with my anger toward my husband. (I know, I'm the one who had the affair, but my anger at him was off the charts for other reasons, it turns out). So, while things are difficult, we are able to be nice to each other. Even if you don't go to couples counseling together, I'd recommend you go by yourself.

No, you should not let him demean you and talk angry to you. It isn't good for you or your children (if you have them). If you don't have kids, please leave him.[/quote]

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