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[quote=Anonymous]Just wanted to share a resource for you AND your daughter --

loveisrespect.org

I particularly love their "quizzes" -- like, "is my relationship healthy" and "can abusers change"?

Fortunately, school is almost over on most college campuses. I would focus on getting your daughter to come home for the summer and cutting off contact with the abuser.

If that works, you can begin to prepare her for resisting the inevitable attempts by the abuser to re-establish contact.  You can also explore over the summer what resources the school has to ensure that there is no contact.  Whether she wants to seek a restraining order, etc.

Regarding the latter (school), I would be very careful.  Schools, in the context of sexual assault, have proven themselves by and large unwilling and unable to protect their students.  Safety of female students, even those experiencing verbal or physical abuse, as opposed to a sexual assault, is a Title IX equity issue.  Female students have a right to be safe on campus from unwanted abuse of any type.  Your daughter may need support and guidance if the school is not appropriately responsive.

I myself was in an emotionally abusive relationship and finally left the second time he threatened to hit me.  I really think no contact is an important part of ending the cycle.

I also really would encourage LAC rather than something like the pill.  Long-acting contraceptives like an IUD ensure that pregnancy will never end up being something that cements her to her abuser. [/quote]

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