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OP - for your brother, he should have a Mental Health Case Manager, and if he is able to he should go to a day program or work with the local  Vocational Agency to see about getting job search support and training for a part-time job.  He should also be on the list for  Section 8 Housing support in your area.  Your husband has every right and you do, too, to expect him to have a bares bones budget unless he is working and paying for any extras.   You may also want to talk to his Case Manager as there may well be supported housing apartments for the mentally ill that he could live in with support to help him maintain his health and lifestyle.

You also will have to separate how perhaps you both were raised and your expectations for how you will live as they probably will be very different.  Your family now is your DH ad your children.  If your folks are still alive, be sure that they have a Special Needs Trust established for any assets he might inherit so his benefits are not endangered.  It is  hard to acknowledge but our youngest earns $11.40 in a college dining room working part-time as she has a cognitive disability while her two older sisters are both professionals, married with young families in the DC area.  While we are here to support her, we know her lifestyle will be very good, but in the future so much remains unknown, and, of course, there is a sadness that her life did not take the same trajectory as her sisters.  You work with the cards you are dealt to the best of your abilities.[/quote]

Now one wrinkle here is that OP DH makes $1M/year so could easily setup a very comfortable lifestyle and trust and likely have very little impact on their own lives. But her DH opposes that idea completely, so OP must work to ensure a sustainable lifestyle from government programs can be set up. [/quote]

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