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[quote=Anonymous]12:43 here who posted a link to the Slate article.  I can tell you that you are not leaving anything out.  You do not have selective memory.  You were the child, he was the adult.  You can't be blamed for his reactions nor do you have a role to 'own' in your interactions.  That's just fucked up talk from people who don't know shit about growing up the way you did.  The quote below is from the Slate article.  What this dream has done is woken up your negative memories and feelings.  You should be sad because what happened to you was wrong.  Don't start second guessing yourself.  Hugs.

[i]Loved ones and friends—sometimes even therapists—who urge reconnecting with a parent often speak as if forgiveness will be a psychic aloe vera, a balm that will heal the wounds of the past. They warn of the guilt that will dog the victim if the perpetrator dies estranged. What these people fail to take into account is the potential psychological cost of reconnecting, of dredging up painful memories and reviving destructive patterns.[/i][/quote]

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