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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here with an update. My stepdaughter told me she doesn't want her mom there because she's quiet and usually doesn't blend in with new people. She also said, and I really think this is the real reason, her mom is single and lives in a condo while I'm married and live in a "big" house like her friend's mothers. I really don't know how to handle this.[/quote]

Ick.  I would hope as a SM that you would help SD grow into a good human being.  It  is not nice to reject people because they live in a condo or have less money (let alone your own Biomom who likely is suffering from poorer career options that she had as a result of motherhood and divorce).  As a biomom, I would never allow ideas like this to be reinforced in my child.  It's common at a certain age for kids to buy into tbe culture of "what everyone has" and I would like my child to be more thoughtful than that.

We live in a small house.  We rent.  We don't have a Range Rover.  But, our lives are nothing to be ashamed of.  Don't reinforce your SD's shame.  Model for her that the fact that Biomom lives in a condo is nothing to worry about and that people will like you and want ok meet you because of who you are, not what you own.  The goal of life is not to "blend in," -- it is to learn to develop your own unique self and find and value the uniqueness in others.
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