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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The clerk thing is because we're short staffed and [b]I'd been picking up on admin work - no one else would, so I stepped up.[/b]  I'm an engineer with two degrees in engineering.

I'm actually starting to wonder if this is a gender thing, since both the culprits (rude new coworker and newish coworker who thinks I'm solely a clerk) are older men.[/quote]

I think this is a bigger contributor to this than you think.  I understand why you did it, because I've done it before as well, but it always bites me in the arse eventually.  I work in a very male dominated company and I've learned to be incredibly careful to not volunteer for any "admin" or otherwise traditionally "female" work because I need the men I work with to respect me and take me seriously.

The next time a person, any person, introduces you as a clerk, shut it down and tell them they are mistaken and give them your actual title.  It's shitty because clerks and admins deserve as much respect as anyone else but clearly these people don't and you need them to respect YOU!

Also, strongly recommend you stop taking on any admin duties or anything not directly your job that could be seen as admin or "women's work" (in the charming words of one of the jackasses I work with) because it just feeds into their disrespect of you.

Finally, never underestimate the power of an immediate "Pardon me?" and a concerned look when someone says anything as nasty as your idiot coworker.  [/quote]

This is very well said.  You are awesome to volunteer but boy does that come back to bite you (in terms of r-e-s-p-e-c-t).  Pardon me would have been great.  Use it if it ever happens again (and I'm going to keep it in my back pocket too).[/quote]

+3 Stop doing the admin work. I am in a male dominated environment and I've actually said no when someone wanted to "volunteer" me to do admin work. There's another woman in our office and she loves doing all the extra tasks including making coffee for our weekly meetings. It kind of makes me look down on her, although I would never hint at it.[/quote]

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