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[quote=Anonymous]+1.  As someone who grew up with a mother in your shoes (she tried to make nice so her kids could have a relationship with their grandmother), give some thought to the damage it does kids to see their mother treated poorly by an authority figure in the family who is supposed to love them.  My parents divorced when I was 12 and my mom, understandably, stopped coming to events with my dad's parents.  Unfortunately, that left me as the person my grandmother complained to about my mom (she told me when I was 13 that my mom "came from the wrong side of the tracks and didn't understand how holidays should be celebrated"  Not true, my mom had far more class than they ever did, but more importantly, why would you tell a kid this?)  My dad never stood up to his mom.  Ever.

When I was 16, I told my dad I would not see his parents anymore.  I told him I was tired of him telling me after they treated me badly that, "but she/they love you!"  I told him I don't know what love is, but THIS ISN'T IT.  It's been more than 15 years and in that time I've gotten married and had two children of my own.  They haven't been a part of any of it.  Let a daughter watch her mother be abused and don't be surprised when she decides not to continue that relationship into her adulthood.[/quote]

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