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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you've had 25 years to establish bonds with your family. Why have you not done that? If you are truly not interested in having relationships with your family, then why do you bother to go to family holidays? You are an adult. Make your own choices. [/quote]

OP here, What you are saying is exactly what my post is about, these "relationships" do not always or even usually form in these scenarios.  I have very strong relationships with my brother, my father, my mother, my half sister, even cousins but that just simply never clicked with my steps.  It's very difficult and has been for a very very long time.    If you are divorced and also remarried be warned, your kids likely don't feel legitimately bonded to your wife/husband and thier kids.  I really have tried but it's just not there and now I am forced to spend holidays with people that if my parent was no longer involved with (either from death or a split) I would never talk to again.  And please understand, I'm not in a fight with any of these people I just don't particularly want to spend all my holidays together.

As for the PP who are now very close to their steps, that's great but I honestly feel that is unusual.  Most of us make it look like we are close but in reality it's just not the same as actual real family.  [/quote]
Girl, please, you cannot speak for anyone but yourself. Some step relationships works and some don't for a lots of complicated and various reasons. [/quote]

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