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MIL has asked to come up for the two days prior to the day of my parents' arrival, with overlap on the day they would arrive. My parents don't really care for her company, and would be nonplussed if they had to share time with her.

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Your parents sound like assholes, OP.   [/quote]

They kind of are. But they're my assholes![/quote]

OP sounds like an asshole too.

I honestly feel bad for her MIL and her  husband, but he was the one to marry the asshole and her asshole family, so I guess you  make your bed.

NP. +1.

I  imagine 30 years from now OP will be complaining  about her asshole DIL who never lets her see her son, and will be scratching her head wondering where he learned that dynamic from because  family is family.[/quote][/quote]

Hey, now, PP. This woman typically decides within a day or two before the weekend that she will be coming up and I have only said no maybe one other time in the past 5 years (due to similar circumstances). I typically say yes and immediately cancel plans with friends, clean frantically, and spend the whole weekend cooking and hosting. Its fine, in fact I wish that she came more because I want my kids to have a good relationship with their grandparents. Its just this one weekend, which I feel guilty enough about that I am posting on DCUM asking for advice about it. I'm sure I'm an asshole in a lot of other ways (like my asshole parents), but I really think I'm doing okay in this department!

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So what makes this weekend different? The fact that she'll overlap with your parents for a matter of hours? You're all adults here; tell your parents to deal with it for the small window they have to see her. It comes off as petty and small to deny this request. No one is saying you have to be the most involved hostess, and she seems pretty self sufficient anyway.[/quote]

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