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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thank you for posting this.  I have the same issue with my 14 year old DD, but she has been disrespectful for a while now.  This morning I had a total meltdown myself, I mean kids,two teens, totally deserved it, but I was so fed up.  She will argue about any single thing, so will my son, they are lazy even though I am always asking nicely and then nicely and then nicely and then I go nuts.  I feel bad about it, but unless I go nuts nothing is done, [b]socks on the floors and clothes all over the house, like family and living room, and even on kitchen table, towels thrown on the floor after one use[/b], or just shoved, comments like all my friends are even messier and cousins too, comments that I am crazy. DH who is now overseas is no help and in fact laments with kids that I am crazy, and then says I just say that and he would also prefer me never to lose my temper and it is best if I just do everything. I am seriously about to ship both my teens to boarding school! My son yelled at me this morning like nuts for making a "big issue over nothing" and in fact over the last week he has lost over 400 dollars worth of clothing and electronics and refuses to take responsibility for all of this, and again I am crazy.  Then DH is asking me what is going on and what I should do about it, and then talks to kids about crazy mom! My DH is non confrontational and a push over to even my kids but the only person he isn't like that with is me. If he wasn't otherwise a great husband, obviously terrible in these issues, I would've ditched him years ago![/quote]

THis was a problem in my house, too.  We sat down and had a family meeting - DH was on board before hand.
We discussed expectations about how much they need to help around the house and that they - now young teenagers - are responsible for their stuff.   Plus their last minute emergency is not mine.

The deal was - they were responsible for picking up their stuff before they went to bed in the downstairs areas and their bathroom.  If they left things out, they were mine.  I put them in a box somewhere in the house.  They could buy back their stuff - ie. pay for for picking it up with either additional chores  or $2 item.

They paid me a lot of money at first but now things are much better![/quote]

That is a very good advice!  Thank you. I think I will start to enforce this rule.  When they were toddlers 1,2,3 magic worked but I stuck to it like glue.  If they fought in a car over a toy and didn't stop after a warning and then 1,2,3 I would pull over to the first dumpster and throw it away.  For real and first time they just were so silent and stunned it didn't take long for them to see I was serious.  But somehow as time passed by it seems I forgot to be consistent or it was just easier to ignore it and now I have this issue. I will see how this works with my two teens. Thanks again.[/quote]

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