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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote][b]Several PP (including myself) have asked you how old your mother is and you refuse to answer.[/b] Based on the fact that you said she has a pension, I would say she is between 55 and 65. If so, that is not elderly. If she were over 75 and moving, then I would have more concerns. Either he way she is an adult with no minor children and can choose what she wants to do and where she wants to do it.[/quote]

Not the OP but you, and the several PPs who asked, clearly have limited experience with aging people and what 'elderly' means.  Elderly is a state of being, not a chronological age.  Some people are 'elderly at 55, some aren't elderly until their 95 (my grandmother was one and she lived to 105).  Based on OP's description, her mother IS elderly.  If you have to have an age, pick one that meets your need.[/quote]

Age is important because it puts things into perspective. I have a dear friend who is 67. She can't tie her shoes because of a knee replacement and suffers from post polio syndrome, but other than that, she is not "elderly" or frail in the same way a 80 year old would be. If I were just to list her "problems", she sounds on the brink. But she is active and completely engaged in her life, except she wears slip on shoes and visits the doctor often.

A 60 something year old is unlikely to decline as quickly as an 80 year old, both physically and mentally. Mom may or may not have a lot of health and life ahead of her, and som but of that IS related to the actual number of her age.

I'm also not sure OP is representing the situation correctly, based on how she is answering some questions and not others.

Also, the REASON mom wants to move is important. Maybe DC winters are too much pain and discomfort, and she's moving to a supported community in Arizona. Maybe she has friends of 50 years that live there. [/quote]

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