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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm 99% sure my DH doesn't want to do therapy, because the therapist will confirm to me what an unhealthy and abusive relationship I am in. And he's afraid if an outside person confirms this, I will leave him. Right now, he can keep playing it off like I overreact and I'm the one with the problem.[/quote]

And if the therapist didn't tell you what you want to hear-it's all your husband's fault-would you listen to that?

No, you would dismiss it and get a different therapist.

Your therapy is absolutely worthless because of your self selection for confirmation bias.   You're living in a self created fucked up echo chamber in which you only hear that which confirms what you want to hear, which is all your problems are caused by someone else, in this case, your spouse.   That means you never have to change and grow.

But remember, by insisting on externalizing the source of your unhappiness, you deny yourself any ability to ever change.

Look in the mirror sweetie.  A good therapist would have forced you tons on that already.  The one you have now is just a check collector.[/quote]

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