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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would never have considered dumping my husband because of MFI, BUT if we'd known about it sooner, maybe we would have started trying sooner (I was 32). It would be nice if some kind of "fertility screening" were available for average joes, not just those who are already having trouble. I read all those "don't wait" articles in my 20s and I still got it wrong...[/quote]

+1.  I also read all those "don't wait" articles in my 20s, decided to start trying almost immediately when I got married at 31 to give us our best chance, had two doctors (PCP and Gyno) tell me not to worry about it and brushed me off when I brought up concerns about fertility and now 12 months later, we're starting the testing to figure out why we haven't been able to get pregnant.  So, not for nothing, doctors need to start paying attention as well and stop treating women in their early 30s like we're nuts for worrying about our fertility if we bring it up.  [/quote]

I got married at 25 and never used birth control. When I was 28 and brought it up to my OBGYN, she acted like I was crazy and I was too young to want to get pregnant. I switched doctors immediately and did get the help I needed. It still angers me that I was told there wasn't an issue when there was in fact an issue.[/quote]

We really can't win.  
-We're ridiculous if we worry about our fertility and ask questions when we're younger and get the "what did you expect" lecture if it turns out we have problems when we're older.  
-We're baby crazy and ridiculous if we want to get married younger and are "all about that ring" if we don't want to waste our time with guys that have no intention of settling down.  If we wait around until our 30s when the guy is ready to settle down, we didn't prioritize having a family and shouldn't complain if we can't have a child without help.  
-If we go ahead and have kids when we're in our 20s and maybe have less money, we get lectured about how we need to be more fiscally responsible and should build a career first.  If we wait until we are in our 30s after having built said career and run into trouble getting pregnant, we get lectured about how we should have expected to have problems waiting until we were older and shouldn't have prioritized our career over having a family.

The next person who preaches at me about how I should have made different decisions in regards to reproducing is going to get a sermon on the moral value of shutting the F up.  [/quote]

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