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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]so you guys who are on husband's side - why wouldn't you get your passport renewed? what downside is there to having a valid passport?
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What would be the upside of having one and going to the post office and taking time out of your day if you are not going anywhere? What is the upside of trying to force someone to do something that they do not want to do just because you want it?

The downside is that he is a grown man being forced to take time out of his day to do something that is meaningless to him.. If he doesn't use the passport for ten years then he just renewed the passport for no reason and only will need to be renewed again. It's just sitting there with all this effort put into acquiring it just for the sake of acquiring it. It makes no sense for you to care so much.

This has to be about a larger issue- him not helping out, him lacking motivation in life or something for you to even care so much. Let it go.[/quote]

Honestly, it's not about any of these larger issues. "Helping out" isn't an issue with us - we both pull our own weight. He has plenty of motivation. He's great.

And stubborn.

And so sometimes he just puts up a fight about something because he wants to put up a fight. And then we have a fight. And it's frustrating.

This is just one of those things.

[b]There's no problem with a "grown man" having to take time from his busy day (that is bizarrely sexist imagery there[/b]). Mostly because I offered to go to the post office with the forms so that he doesn't have to do it, because I care about this and he doesn't - I thought I could make this as friction-free as possible by doing it all myself.

I realize that for many of you guys, having a passport or not seems like a purely practical issue. Do you have a specific trip for which you need this specific tool. Of course, it's partly that for me - I don't want to not be able to take advantage of an airfare deal because we don't have valid travel documents. It's obviously more than that to me, as well. 
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How? I would say the same thing about you. Why would you be forcing a grown woman to do something she doesn't want to do? You are being ridiculous and bizarrely angry about a non issue. It's like you want to fight with your husband about this so you are spinning in circles trying to make this an issue.

You can take a trip , book the damn thing because of a fare deal and get the passport. I booked a trip to China and had an expired passport and I just went and got it renewed.  I have travelled all over the place and this has never been an issue. You are creating a problem for no reason with all these scenarios that actually would not be a problem. [/quote]

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