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I agree with the moms saying this. [b]I think she should finish the year.[/b] You should insist on practice and a few extra lessons. 
  You could also just try to check in with her if there is something else going on (dynamics in the class itself.) I'd talk to the band teacher, myself, to alert him or her to your daughter's feelings and your efforts. He/she might have some insights.[/quote]

The point of playing an instrument is enjoyment. You are supposed to enjoy playing an instrument -- not necessarily every single day, for every single piece and practice session, but definitely overall. In OP's case, OP's child [i]hates[/i] playing the trombone. What does OP's child gain from being forced to do something she hates for the rest of the year? What is the benefit?[/quote]

Most kids who play any instrument want to quit at some point and need their parents to help them over these humps.  [/quote]

This is true. But there is a difference between wanting to quit and crying fits for an hour every night. My children have gone through periods of wanting to quit. Even for the one who has quit his instrument, it never reached hour long crying jags. For the one who didn't quit, small breaks in practice requirements, or incentivizing practice in some way got her over the bumps. For the one who did quit, the breaks and incentives didn't work and the desire to quit was persistent. So he quit. He knows he can resume that or another instrument should he wish. But playing a musical instrument is not the only way to teach perseverance or commitment. Most people have many paths that can help them learn and practice those skills.[/quote]

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