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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.

We've offered private lessons - even suggesting that one or two lessons might help, but she FREAKED OUT.  I HATE IT, etc.

Her arms are long enough for the instrument (the instructor/director was careful about that as the kids picked their instruments).

It is too late during the year to switch to a different instrument.  She's have to start over in 5th, and there's no way she'll do that.

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It's ok if she hates it but she committed to it for the year so tell her to give it her all while she has to do it.  Sign her up for the lessons and take her.

My child suffers from anxiety and performance anxiety.  It is hard and can be very trying but what we found is that kids need you as the adult to step in and help them manage.  They over inflate situations in their mind and you need to step in and just take over.  Sometimes removing the decisions making about the situation also helps reduce stress. Tell your child she will take the lessons. Tell her she will practice for 15 mintues a day and you will be with her while she does. Praise every effort when practicing.  Go to the recital.  [/quote]

I agree with the moms saying this. I think she should finish the year. You should insist on practice and a few extra lessons. 
  You could also just try to check in with her if there is something else going on (dynamics in the class itself.) I'd talk to the band teacher, myself, to alert him or her to your daughter's feelings and your efforts. He/she might have some insights.[/quote]

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