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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks for all the advice everyone. I understand I do not have the right to be upset at her for pursuing her dreams. Its not even that I'm upset that she did not follow the "plan" or "hopes and expectations" of our parents/family. They were never imposed on her. It was just an unwritten understanding on each our parts that these were our dreams. We would go to college. Get good grades, get good jobs, work hard, get into IVY league caliber graduate programs, establish ourselves as productive members in the american community. She seemed like she wanted that too. She applied to Brown from HS got rejected so she wound up at a State university. She then enrolled in Finance, because she said she wanted a high earning job. She never had any boyfriends or expressed interest in them. I have a boy-crazy sister, it would not be shocking if she announced tomorrow she wanted to go elope with a boy. I just kind of feel....betrayed like I didn't even know my sister because she goes from...not even a bleep about boys to...falling head over heels and being super serious with this guy she's been dating in the span of a year. Were our dreams not enough? What does he have that we/our family didn't?

I'm just so confused and hurt by it. I don't even know how to explain it. Of course I expected her to marry...SOMEDAY and I did not realize it would mean her being swallowed up in his gilded world, far away from us. [/quote]

This is ridiculous.  Your sister isn't a machine.  The majority of people do eventually marry or pair up.  Also you do realize that marriage can very much benefit women, right?  I pretty much doubled my income when getting married and we are building wealth together.  Only mentioned that because you seem very hung up on success or your narrow definition of it.  I don't see why becoming wealthy by working at an investment bank is that much better than becoming wealthy by marrying someone wealthy.  I used to work in finance and would think that most normal loving marriages are way way more satisfying.  Finance is boring. [/quote]

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