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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Merging families can be hard.[b] If you're a MIL, what are the things you wish you could say to your DIL[/b] or wish she did differently? What drives you crazy? There is a lot of "MIL drives me nuts" talk on this site, but what are the pain points on the other side of the relationship? [/quote]

My DIL seems to be a little bit scared of me.  Why in the heck is she scared of me????  I am just a mere mortal, with good stuff and faults like anyone else.  No one else has ever been scared of me.  I am not the great and powerful Oz.

I would also like to tell her that I wish that gifts were acknowledged.  We live 1,400 miles apart from each other.  I send gifts for the kids a couple times a year.  They are never acknowledged.  [b]I suspect her thinking is that her husband / my son should acknowledge the gifts. [/b]But when I ask him about them, he doesn't know what I am talking about, since she usually brings in the mail, and he works a lot of hours and isn't home much.

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Chances are, she told him about the gifts and he does not remember. Don't put this on her.[/quote]

Agree 100%.  We have a rule in my house - I deal with communication with my family, and my husband deals with communication with family.  I am not some sort of "communications switchboard".  Once we implemented that rule, a wave of peace washed over our home.  I don't expect my husband to pick up the phone and call my mom.  In the same sense, I don't pick up the phone and call my MIL.  If she sends us a gift, I tell my husband.  What he does with that info is up to him.[/quote]

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