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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here:

I suspected that this was coming up do to something with my sibling and turns out I was right.

Sibling and spouse live near our parents. We live several hours drive away. Sibling alternates years going to their in-laws home for Thanksgiving (in another state, they need to fly to get there). Last year they were supposed to go to the in-laws, so I invited our parents down to be with us for Thanksgiving. Sibling and spouse then ended up changing their plans and stayed home for Thanksgiving by themselves.

So here we are, sibling must have brought up to our parents that they are going to their in-laws for Thanksgiving this Fall (why are we talking about this now??) and BAM, I get a text trying to get me to lock in my plans for this coming Thanksgiving.

BTW- I have in-laws too and we too try to alternate holidays. So with having my parents last year, I'm sure my husband is going to want to invite his parents this year. I've tried inviting both families to come at the same time, but they don't like one another and it's difficult/tense. They can barely hold it together and be pleasant to one another for one day to celebrate our DS's birthday. It's really annoying to see 60/70-somethings behave like children.

Anyway - I know what's coming. If I chose not to entertain the conversation right now I'll get the whole, "we need to be able to make our plans" and "you're going to make us wait not knowing if we will be alone for Thanksgiving" and "you need to respect/appreciate our need to get this worked out (to reduce Mom's anxiety)"

For the love of Pete....

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I'd tell them it's your turn to host your IL's IF you're feeling up to it.  They should go ahead and make whatever plans they need to and not to count on you cooking them a bird.  Then I'd probably flip her one[/quote]

Yaaasssss![/quote]

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