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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have a family beach house - bought by parents but now sadly one is dead and the other requires 24/7 nursing care. My siblings and I use the house each summer with our families. It's really only big enough for one family at a time, so we have to switch off. We have no set process for scheduling times - some one just sends around an email each spring asking for specific dates and the others usually respond in turn. Unfortunately, it's beginning to lead to frictions and I don't know if there's a better way.

Part of the problem is that the constraints of each sibling are different - one sibling is very close by, while others are 4/5 hrs or as long as a 10/11hr drive away. The sibling who lives close to the beach house has no kids, so in theory can use the can use the house whenever the mood strikes (in reality their spouse will only go when there's good beach weather.) The sibling who lives furthest away generally only comes once per summer for a 2 week stretch. The ones w/4hr drive usually take the house for a couple of weekends and week/10-day stretches.

The siblings that live at a greater distance have to work vacation time around kids - school calendar, summer sports, camp availability, etc. Inevitably they prefer August and pre-Labor Day. Close-by sibling without kids is getting pissed about this and staking claims to early August weekends on principle. It's worth mentioning that the close-by sibling is the front line family member for our remaining parent.

How would you resolve?[/quote]

Sell it, divide the profits.  The longer you keep it, paint, new roof, water heaters, flooring, etc. are going to need to be replaced. Who is going to oversee all that and getting the money for the upkeep.  It rarely works, best to get rid of it and let everyone find their own place down the road.[/quote]

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