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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]That is an absolutely horrible thing to do to someone. He is an asshole. Or totally screwed up from a massively dysfunctional family, like the previous poster. Or both. I am sorry you wasted a year on him, but be glad you're rid of him. You don't want to date someone who has such cowardly and callous communication skills.[/quote]

Op here- oh he definitely has a very dysfunctional family. No relationship with his mom and [b]his father has a drug and alcohol problem[/b] and they barely talk. [/quote]

A lot of children of alcoholics are conflict adverse, as learned, self-protective behavior.

A primer: http://www.searidgealcoholrehab.com/article-adult-children-of-alcoholics.php

Don't take it personally.  Move on.

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Indeed.  +1

I was "ghosted" by a woman I was in an LDR with for ~20 months - same MO: just packed up her stuff and disappeared without so much as a note while I was at work.  I had to go collect my things from her front porch that weekend.  Yes, you dodged a bullet; these people are the walking wounded and she came from a pretty dysfunctional family (father was a big alcoholic).  It most definitely is not just "men" who pull this kind of stunt.

It is cowardly and you did dodge a bullet, because can you imagine trying to handle difficult life situations and challenges with someone who is like this?  In hindsight I realized how much of the "rough patch" that ex and I were having was a function of some of her commitment issues (yes, I have my own issues too).  I still haven't decided if she was pushing me away trying to get me to dump her because things were getting too close...though honestly, I don't think much about it any more.  You'll get to this place too with time :-)[/quote]

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