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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Let's be honest--most people who are divorced and contemplating re-marriage don't give a rat's ass what their kids really think about it.  Oh they'll give lip service to wanting the kids to be happy but when it comes down to it the kids come second to the adults' "wants."[/quote]

+1.  Or they delude themselves that the kids are/will be happy.  [/quote]

Usually the reason people with kids get remarried is so they can have a step-mom or step-dad to take some of the load off of themselves.  When both have their own kids not sure exactly how that makes anything easier.  Or they do it for financial reasons thinking combining households will be cheaper.

So what you've really got is the step-mom and step-dad trying to outmaneuver each other as to which one gets the upper hand in the second marriage i.e. who gets the most benefits out of it.  Combine that with "ex" issues on both sides, and you can see why it would be a nightmare more times than not.

You can even see the selfishness in some of the responses--"Why should I have to wait to be happy?" etc.

None of these "steps" think they're at fault for the failure of their prior marriage anyway.  It's always the other person's fault, right?

Nowadays there's absolutely no reason to re-marry unless it's for some perceived financial advantage.  No one cares if you live with someone else anymore without being married to them.    So these "steps" re-marry for money, help with their kids, health insurance, revenge, etc.[/quote]

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