Reply to Drinking problem or harmless fun?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Drinking problem or harmless fun? "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. Some of you are very rude. I am concerned because her dad is an drunk, and she never wanted to drink because of that. She is having  hard time in her life right now, and thats when the drinking began. The amount varies. This past weekend she drank a botte of wine each, on Thursday, Friday, and Saturday night. The weekend before it was a bottle spit between two nights. The weekend before was 3 nights in a row of a bottle of wine. Im concerned she may develop a problem. [/quote]12:48 again.  Oh, oh, oh - this is a huge red flag.  OP, you may want to try some Al-Anon meetings.  All that's required to attend an Al-Anon meeting is being concerned about a family or friend's drinking.  The usual suggestion is to try six different meetings to see if it works for you and to try different meetings to see which one works best for you.  You can learn more there and get support if you need it.  But the reality is, as concerned as you are about her, you can't make her cut back on drinking.  She has to want to do it herself.

The family thing is key, though.  My parents and my brother were alcoholics.  I got into the program early and quit drinking before I ever got in a bad place and my kid grew up in an alcohol free home but became an alcoholic herself in college.  Fortunately she knew the family history and when she realized she was going the same direction, she started going to AA.  I just say all this to warn you that having an immediate family member who's an addict doesn't guarantee that you will be an addict, too (my sister drinks normally for example) but if someone is drinking a lot and it also runs in the family, it's not a good sign.

I can tell you care a lot about your girlfriend.  I hope she comes to some clarity soon.  Good luck, OP![/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics