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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Our marriage sucked the first 6-7 months of our child's life.  It was horrible.  Screaming, emotional abuse on both sides.  I couldn't get help for disabling PPD ("it's just hormones").  I was so full of rage that I couldn't stand to see him, and of course no one even told me that was PPD.  I thought I was a bitch and so did he.  When I figured it out, I begged him for help because I didn't have the energy and he basically laughed and said there was nothing wrong with me other than that I was a bitch.

Two and a half years later, I'm finally better, but I can't move past his comments.  I tried counseling and objectively I know it wasn't me - it was a mental illness - but he made a comment last week that showed he still believes it was something in my personality.  He told me I never apologized, exvept to blame it on a disease I didn't even have.  Do I even have a chance of convincing him that was [b]not me?[/b]  I just cannot force the words, "I am sorry for being horrible to you" out of my mouth without appending something about PPD to it.[/quote]

Have him take a Medrol pack chock full of a bitch-making substance and ask him how he feels.

http://www.drugs.com/sfx/medrol-dosepak-side-effects.html

It's one of those things that you have to have experienced it to really know just how thoroughly it can fuck you up. My family still makes fun of my weekend of outrage. I wore a pink bikini (back when I could) and sipped lemon water, sunbathing between mad sessions of barking evil, furiously. Stomp, stomp, growl through the garden. It was so beyond beyond! I cannot imagine suffering through this for six months.

Would having him speak directly to a doctor help? I assume you've apologized profusely. Once you've done that (and meant it) there's room for understanding what you BOTH suffered.

I have never been so angry with ice cubes in my life! It was ridiculous!! And, because it was ridiculous (and not targeted to anyone in particular) we all survived it with minimal damage. I apologized, even though everyone knew it was the meds. Why wouldn't I? I was a nightmare. Understanding can come later, OP. You need to acknowledge what you became. How else do you see things moving forward?

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