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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You attempted an insincere apology with a "but" in the sentence.

Having a mental illness is one part of it, but understand that even though it afflicted you, you hurt your loved one.  On purpose or not is irrelevant.   Just like if someone with bipolar went into rage.  An apology would still be warranted to other person.

Once you acknowledge his feelings, he would likely be more willing to acknowledge yours.  You say you won't take responsibility for your actions because it was a mental illness.  So why should he take responsibility for your mental illness?  Why is he to blame for not recognizing PPD, especially PPD that doesn't have the usual symptoms?

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[b]Again, this isn't about me "hurting" him.  That's not his issue.[/b]

And yes, I think he needs to take a lot of responsibility because he isolated me after the baby was born, which directly contributed to it.  I cried and screamed about it, but he had made his decision and that was it.  I argued until I was blue in the face about lack of social support being a causal factor, and was ignored.[/quote]

The title of the thread is "Husband still blames me for acting like a bitch postpartum".  To me that sounds like he felt hurt.  That hurt has probably manifested as anger.  Which has now probably manifested into resentment since you refuse to be take responsibility for acting mean towards him.

It boils down to this OP-if you want to be able to move pass this and make your marriage work. Give him a sincere apology and then, later, when tensions have settled have an adult conversation about how hurt you felt for being isolated and give him a chance to apologize to you.  Go to therapy if needed to resolve both of your issues.

Otherwise, don't take responsibility, keep blaming him and eventually get a divorce.

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