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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What kind of work/hobby is this?
How much money is he bringing in?
And you really don't need the money?

I guess my answer depends on what the details are.
For example, if he loves to play poker and is now spending all weekend at professional poker player tournaments, hoping to hit it big, that's one thing.
If he's a high school teacher for his full time job and is working with at risk youth on the weekends to bring their homework to jails and detention centers, that's another.

If he is bringing in a couple hundred dollars a weekend coaching sports and hanging out with the guys at baseball fields and after game bars watching replays, and is bringing in $175/year, that is also not a great situation

But if by not needing the money you mean you are getting by with the monthly bills but not  saving and have credit card debt, then he may be doing the right thing by getting extra work every weekend.

Lots of nuances here OP![/quote]

I tend to take a different view.  The "type" of hobby or the "amount" of money is irrelevant.

Values are what is important, and that should dictate actions and decisions.  When one's kid(s) are under age 4, is not the time to go embark on personal hobbies and projects.  Help your spouse, raise your babies, be there for each other. Those years are tough, and if one spouse checks out to do personal stuff or hide behind "stressful officework" then maybe it's time for a different job.

Ask him what his priorities are. Start there. [/quote]

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