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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, try this.

An engagement ring is meant to be the physical symbol of your promise to marry someone that you love, with all the attendant devotion and affection and respect that entails - for this feminist woman, anyway. There are certainly people who see it as a mark of possession or a tradition of the patriarchy used to prove that women can be bought.

If your intended wife is a woman who expects a flashy ring, but that is not something that matches your values, then don't propose to her. If you find yourself chaffing at the idea of spending gobs of money on a piece of jewelry with a dodgy ethical past, possibly constructed from materials produced exploitatively, then don't propose to her with a ring.

Stop making this about feminism and defining that as sharing things 50/50. There are lots of things that are not going to be shared 50/50. I will always be the one who gives more than my 50% share of my body to my marriage because I am the only one who can physically bear children. My husband will always contribute more than his 50% share of our income, because he will always make more money than me.

That you feel PITY for your friends who are getting engaged is pretty sad. [/quote]
+1. A really great response.[/quote]

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