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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Grow the fuck up.  My sister did precisely what you are proposing with my two brothers.  It blew the whole fucking family up.  Nieces and nephews no longer have aunts and uncles, siblings no longer talk to one another, children have taken sides against their parents.  Adults do not behave this way.  She didn't even have to have any contact with them.  This formal declaration was more about her childishness than it was about my brothers' admittedly bad behavior.  When dealing with family it isn't all about you.  Your actions have tentacles that reach to everyone else.  Every time I see one of these posts, I can't help but think did you people never move beyond middle school emotionally?[/quote]

And whenever I see responses like yours, I can't help but think you people are just angry that you don't have the courage to do what the OP is contemplating and are angry that you're stuck in an abusive situation.  Or, you're angry because the sibling that cut everyone off isn't around for you to abuse anymore.  Regarding formal declarations: you'd still be pissed even if she just faded away and didn't make the formal declaration.

OP - do what is healthiest for you. 
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Unless I've missed it, Op hasn't really given any examples of egregious behavior in her sister other than "saying things" that Op doesn't like. Is she making nasty and intrusive comments about Op's kids/husband/job/life or is Sis simply rubbing the Op the wrong way?

If the woman is being abusive - steer clear.  But if the woman is simply annoying or not as doing as Op likes...that is different.

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But that is the thing with emotional abuse.  It's so easy to twist it and say "Oh I didn't mean that!" "Stop being so sensitive!", etc. etc.  The abuser gets to play the victim (see the PPs above) and everyone feels sorry for them.

OP - there is some good info on this website: https://theinvisiblescar.wordpress.com/  This post may be of particular use to you: https://theinvisiblescar.wordpress.com/2013/06/27/prepare-yourself-for-backlash-when-going-no-contact-advice-for-adult-children/[/quote]

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