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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I'm sorry but yes, your gut is right. Listen to it, especially since he's acting the way he is and he's proven himself already to be dishonest and a cheater.

Once someone cheats, if they want their partner to stick around, it's on the cheater to prove they're trustworthy, which means any time their partner has a question, they have to answer it. They should be transparent, willing to show all texts, emails, etc. They lost the right to be treated as trustworthy people.

Since your husband didn't tell you the whole story about the past infidelity that you know about, and he's putting on the angry/silent treatment act when you ask him about his actions now, you have your answer. He can't act trustworthy and is being hurtful and manipulative in covering up whatever he's doing. That shows you a lot about how selfishly he's still viewing your feelings and what he thinks is okay for him to do.

If it ever comes out that my spouse has cheated a second time, or if he ever acts in ways that show he's trying to hide anything or isn't considering my feelings regarding the issues, which are a direct consequence of his behavior, I will be done with him. Because there are kids and a big investment in our family and love, he got his second chance. I would consider we would be back to zero again, and figure out what I want to do from there.[/quote]

The 2nd time you leave, there's no figuring. If you stay you've become a co-dependent in an abusive marriage. Yes cheating is abusive. Get your ducks in a row, and leave the loser.
The fact he got mad at her is part of the pattern of abuse to cover up his lies.  He sounds like a creep and I'll bet he is secretive in many ways. Most cheaters are not a open book.  All red flags.[/quote]

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