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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are things really that more complicated these days?

I did college admissions completely on my own 20 years ago - and ended up at a solid SLAC with minimal debt. (Also admitted to Ivies but realized I couldn't afford it.) [b]I literally had no discussion about it with my parents except for to tell them when I had narrowed my acceptance down to two choices that would cost the same[/b]. Even then the choice was entirely my own.

I do want to take a more active role with my child but I can't imagine the intense over-involvement of other parents here. If my child can't figure out how to evaluate the options, understand the finances, and meet the application deadlines, mostly of his own accord, then I will have failed in parenting in many ways. [/quote]
Your simplistic approach about no discussion with your parents 20 years ago was fine for your lifestyle.  As a parent of color, not only am I involved in the college choice process, I am also along for visits for now.  Our discussion is not as simplistic as yours might be as we discuss college choices in the south where confederate flags fly or review choices in Maine where the governor remarks about out of state drug dealers impregnating innocent young white girls or his remarks about telling Obama to go to hell and the NAACP to kiss his butt.  Or states where there are flagrant abuses of people of color with traffic stops.  I think you get the picture.

Your definition of intense over-involvement is summarily dismissed by ANY PARENT who wants to make sure their child is cautious and safe in their collegiate atmosphere.

The options as you put it are more than just finances, applications deadlines, and ones ability to fill out an application.[/quote]

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