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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've lived in the DC area my whole life. I've been applying for out of state jobs and I got a job offer in Florida. I've always wanted to move to Florida so it would be the perfect opportunity. The only problem is my ex wife has full custody of our daughter (I get every other weekend with her). I don't want to be one of those dads that only sees his kid a few times a year like my dad was. I talked to my ex and asked her if she would consider moving and she told me hell no. Then said I was being selfish for ruining our family and then asking her to follow me so I can live my dream. It's not about her, it's about our daughter, but she doesn't want to see it that way. Do you think this is a selfish request?[/quote]

I think that you mean well, but your request does not take into account that your ex-wife has built a life here separate from you. If she picks up and moves to FL, she may stall her career and she'll definitely lose her support network.

I personally would not move to another county, let alone another state so DD could be near my XH. However, I do know a family that did this (CA to DC) and a decade later it seems like it worked out okay. I think it helped that the divorce was still fresh when the job transfer happened so the mom had not yet reestablished herself as a single woman socially. She and her XH also divorced amicably and are each other's main support network.[/quote]

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