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[quote=Anonymous]Everyone asking why it's necessary to have a label/diagnosis seems like they're not familiar with the distinct challenges that come with appearing high-functioning but having to work 5x as much and as hard to do things----I'm a woman who really struggled with self esteem because I was labeled gifted as a child and felt that since everyone was always telling me how smart I was, that there was something wrong with me/I was just not trying hard enough/I was a failure because I had the executive functioning skills of a gym sock.  Getting a diagnosis when I was 14 helped me break that cycle of depression/anxiety-self-loathing and low self-esteem, not only because I understood that my brain working differently was not my fault, but because I had way more resources to help me figure out coping strategies.

OP, I'm in my mid 20s with ADD and depression/anxiety and I have several female friends who are on the spectrum and also deal with ADD/depression/anxiety.  Please know you're not alone, and that life can be so much better with treatment and the support of people who care about you.  Things aren't always awesome, but being able to say "Can you do xyz so I can focus on ___ bc ADD" to my husband is really helpful----For example I was getting ready to leave for work on MLK day, which he had off, and I was a total mess and said to him "You being here when you're usually not here when I get ready for work is throwing off my whole routine to the point where I'm having trouble remembering how to get dressed. Can you hang in the living room while I get ready? I'm feeling really anxious because of the change in routine."[/quote]

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