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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry, OP.  I agree with the PP that you need to think of them as willfully ignorant and stupid.  And, in the US culture, you absolutely do NOT marry the family.  You marry your spouse and are required to be civil to your ILs but not deferential.  Hugs.[/quote]

Thank you.

So far, I am proud of taking the high road but it hurts. I think my MIL is a lovely woman and very living and giving to other white people. It just hurts to feel discriminated like this.[/quote]

I'm sorry, but you cannot describe someone as a "lovely woman" and qualify that they are generous only to "white people" in the same sentence.  There are many appalling racists and bigots throughout history (leaving aside even slave owners) who were generous to only their race.  Maybe we're willing to give our founding fathers a pass in historical context, but in 2016 in the US there is literally no excuse no matter where you are from in this country.  The inability to filter biased information from Fox News is not an excuse.  
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OP here.

I'm trying not to be too hard on her seeing as she is the mother of my dh. I find her world view very concerning and her fears about whites being the minority in the country while knowing her own son married a non-white is just...I have no idea how to even take it. Her grandchildren will not be white!![/quote]

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