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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a middle eastern woman who married into a white Republican family. My dh is amazing and not racist and advocates for open borders. His parents however are staunch Trump and Ted Cruz supporters. Although they have never been outright horrible to me and have been as kind and open hearted as they can, I still feel a distance there that will never be closed. I don't click with my MIL or SIL and although not mean or hostile, they think of me as "the other" and keep to themselves on family outings. The MIL is also very openly anti-immigrant and especially anti-Syrians due to the stuff thats happening over there. I try not to hold it against here because the news we hear every day is bad and I am the only loosely mulsim person she's ever encountered in her life. Her rants about white people being wiped out by immigrants and nationalism and racial purity scare me. Also given the fact that they openly support people like Trump and Cruz...I just can't deal.

I love my DH but I wish his family was very very different. [/quote]

I get theres a current anti illegal immigrant, anti Syrian or muslim immigrant sentiment - a majority of Americans feel that way.  They are scared and broke. But I've encountered arabs who get offended by anything. I'm arab, and I dont. I just know the old addage "how important is it," and also I try to remember where they are coming from, even if it is a place of ignorance.

But as for your MIL, I'm wondering if you aren't misinterpreting some of things. For instance, sounds like MIL thinks of you as, well, on her side of the fence I suppose. What I mean is, maybe she has no idea she is offending you because she doesn't look at you as some "other." Like, maybe her intentions towards you personally aren't malevolent.

And finally, there are all sorts of laws about immigration, written and unwritten. We deny entry to the US and green cards to people from all over the world. The prior owner of my home whos probably been dead a decade just had his immigrant nunber come up for a green card. He waited his whole life because he was filipino. Not everybody gets to just come here and get a green card, for various reasons. Wanting to do something about illegal immigration (it is ILLEGAL), and having concerns about national security about the vetting process for Syrian refugees doesn't make someone an awful person.

Your overall post just makes me wonder if you aren't exaggerating or taking things too personally, and maybe they keep to themselves walking on eggshells.[/quote]

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