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[quote=Anonymous]My IL's are similar in their preference for their daughter.  We live closer and DH is always helping them, running errands for them, doing things around their houses, but SIL is as spoiled now as she was as a teenager.  MIL is 75 and still drives down to her house (5 hours away) a few times a year to take a week to thoroughly clean the house from top to bottom and "give SIL a break." They buy SIL expensive gifts every year (laptop, iPad, etc) and give DH a $50 check.  MIL literally drove down after Christmas in a separate car because they needed two cars to carry all the presents for my niece.  (To be fair, I'd never let them give even a quarter of all that to our child!)

What helps me let it go is that this has hurt DH his whole life.  (He's the 3rd of 4 kids and was always told there was no time for him to be in scouts or sports because of older brothers' more important commitments, but then little sister came along and she was allowed to do scouts and sports, etc.) He keeps trying to win their live and approval by being the good son and they keep favoring SIL and always will.  And it just hurts him -- rubs that old wound -- when I get annoyed by them or point out another example of their favoritism.  And I love my DH and don't want to hurt him or rub salt in his wounds.

Maybe that kind of approach could help you let it go?  [/quote]

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