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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]7:21 is on the ball. You have to refuse to engage with them around this crap; set limits and enforce them. Dad won't stop bashing mom, after you ask him to stop? Leave or ask him to leave. Mom throws a FB hissy over Dad's gf being tagged? Delete her posts and refuse to discuss with her.

My parents split 14 years ago and thankfully get along now (better than when married). But when they first split I had to do a lot of boundary-setting with them (mainly my mom) along these lines. I was in my mid-20s at the time.

My in-laws are still very bitterly divorced, despite both being remarried. My husband tells them flat out when they start complaining about each other that he will have none of it.

It sucks to have to do this, I know, but it will go so far in easing your own resentment. It's also good practice for limit-setting with your kids. Take good care and good luck![/quote]

I had to stop talking to my mom for 1.5 years because she could not stop her crazy, controlling, interfering, stressing us all out behavior. Never picked up the phone,
didn't answer the door (she knew what was up, assumed she was right as always and stopped coming over anyways), no holiday visits, no FB, nothing. We live
close to her like you do to your dad too. After that amount of time she saw me and my beautiful kids at the grocery store by chance and just decided that being 
right all the time wasn't worth it. She's now really sweet to everyone. No more judgement, no more nasty comments - seriously, it's like night and day.

Some people are just really hard to change, but you have to be stronger than them if they are hurting your family regularly. It's worth it in the long run. 
As you have tried reasoning with them you might just take a big old long break as it might get the message across.

That's really sad that your parents are so bitter after all this time. [/quote]

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