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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No one has said anything except DH, and since she's not my relative, I don't feel that I can say anything to her.  I guess I'm mostly looking for a way I can be ok with the things she says.  I'm not good when people aren't nice,never have been.[/quote]

Probably one of the things she dislikes about organized religion is that it's been a cause of division and conflict across human history - yet, she is using the topic of religion to cause division within her own family. Has anyone pointed out the hypocrisy to her in this behavior? Maybe something as simple "You know SIL, I also think that religion should never be a cause of division - let's not allow it to be one here & now. What do you say?" and then change the subject. [/quote]

This. Two other thoughts: has your DH's religion been a lot harder on her than it was on him? and if you are literal believers, maybe [i]that[/i] really bothers her. I know it gets under my skin that my dad literally believes the earth is a few thousand years old because that's what the Bible adds up to. Not that there's any excuse for dickish behavior and mocking.[/quote]

Fairly literal, although not young earth creationists.

For example, after a very general blessing before a meal over Christmas, SIL decided it was the right time to tell her children that praying to an imaginary deity before eating was something small-minded people do.  I feel like I can't say anything - not my house - so how can I feel less unhappy about it myself?  IL's just rolled their eyes.  I guess they've been around her long enough to blow it off.[/quote]

Wow, super rude!!! If you don't want to say grace, then just politely sit there for a moment. That's all it takes to be a decent accommodating person. If she finds it such an outrage, then she & her kids should sit down at the table 5 minutes after everyone else. I'd propose that if this were my SIL.[/quote]

I thought it was at SIL's house at least some of the time.[/quote]

No, never.  Always at the parents' house.[/quote]

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