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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So what is an acceptable conversation topic to discuss with parents?  The weather, what you ate that day, ...?  I generally agree that you should address your problems with the person with whom you have an issue, but sometimes you might need to test out how you address said issue with someone else first.[/quote]

There is plenty to talk to my parents about other than marital problems.  I talk to my mom a LOT about kids' developmental milestones, for example.  "Mom, is X kid behavior normal?"  Plus, just what's going on with work, with DH's work, with their lives, with their stupid smelly old dog, etc. :)

In terms of talking to others about marital issues, I totally agree - and have encouraged DH to talk to his friends who have good marriages - I just think it's problematic for MIL to know certain things about me and us.  [/quote]

It is really not your business who  you spouse is comfortable talking with. I am sorry that you are uncomfortable with this, but it's not your decision. People need to talk to someone. They get to decide who their confidants are.  It's not your decision.  Trying to make it your decision is incredibly controlling.

Sometimes you just have to suck it up and deal with your partner's choices. [/quote]

Eh, seems like the vote is quite split on that in this thread!  I am not trying to control it btw, I am trying to see how rational my feelings are about it.  I do come down on the side of, the topic of confiding in people should be discussed among spouses, however.  And from the responses here, I'm pretty confident in that view :)[/quote]

DCUM is full of overly controlling wives.  Welcome to the club.[/quote]

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