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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think people here don't feel the obligation to spend time with toxic or abusive people who make them miserable. Obviously, happy families usually have no issue spending time together. As for extended families living together, that's just a cultural difference in our societies. Here, extended family usually live separately unless there is a financial/medical reason not to.[/quote]

This, but also women in the United States work outside the home and are often happy to do so.  Have you noticed that the burden for caring for extended family in these "family centric" cultures falls exclusively to women?  Women care for their own children as well as their MIL and FIL, and probably their own parents as well.  That's a burden not shared by men, and one that I think many women would be happy to cast off if they were able to. [/quote]

Sure. Women are the primary caregivers usually in traditional south asian families. Even still, when my SIL had a baby my MIL and sisters helped her out in ways I can't fathom American families would. It takes a village to raise a child.[/quote]

Would all of those women choose to be primary caregivers if they had the option?  Do women WANT to care for elderly in-laws?  Do grandparents who have just gotten their own kids out of the house WANT to take on responsibility for another generation?

I can't imagine that all women want that.  Some do, but that's what women have in the United States and much of Western Europe - the choice to be primary caregivers or not.  Turns out many choose not.  I can't fault them for that. [/quote]

Its a very different reality when you are the woman and the actual caregiver.  Those who preach are not dealing with a relative with dementia who cannot feed, bath or care for themselves let alone be home alone.  Its far harder care than a newborn.  You cannot even compare the level of care  needed.  I did it and couldn't do it anymore.[/quote]

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