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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a DH who makes more (3x's) than my wife (a teacher) but we absolutely divide things up by time. I have a more flexible job so I do the pick ups and drop offs since I don't have a firm "start time" at work or "end time." DW gets home an hour before we do. She usually gets dinner started, walks the dog, and does a 30 minute exercise video. We are both otherwise hands on. I do the teacher work day and sick days usually since I have 6 weeks of paid vacation and 4 weeks of sick leave a year. DW gets 12 days. Total.

During the summer, DW does more with the kids. I am using training for a marathon, so she ends up doing pick ups and is around to handle a lot of the house stuff.

Truthfully, OP it's a question of time more than money. Who has it should be the biggest indicator or who takes on the work.[/quote]

How much you earn does not dictate how much power or significance you have the relationship.  If you are unhappy with the distribution of house work and time with children, then simply outline a list of everyone's responsibilities, sit down and sort out who is doing what. If it turns out that it is true that you have a significantly higher workload, and perhaps this load negatively impacting your ability to perform well at your job, then this exercise would be a lot more constructive than simply bitching about how much more important you are b/c you make more money, and therefore, are entitled to a more equal workload. [/quote]

I actually don't understand your hostility PP.  Each partner in the relationship regardless of money earned has a duty to perform approximately half of the unpaid family/home workload.  If couples want to negotiate away some of this or take on more of this, it's their business, but OP should have to "bitch" about being "entitled to a more equal workload."  The fact that she does, and that she has to make justification for the more equal workload like "I'm earning more money" and point out the economics of her moving back to a "more equal" distribution of the unpaid workload speaks volumes about the sexism in her marriage.  The fact that you call her out for "bitching" about wanting things to be equal speaks volumes about your sexism and the sexism in our culture. [/quote]

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