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[quote=Anonymous]I know how you feel OP.  My DH and I did not get married until we were 33.  I didn't think that it would be a problem, so we waited until we were 38 to TTC for various personal and career reasons.  I got pregnant with my beautiful DD within the first few months of trying, so I thought that I was some fertility dynamo.  Wrong!  My fertility just disappeared after that.  We started trying for #2 when DD was only 6 months old, and I got pregnant again right away at age 39, but had a miscarriage. We saw an RE and he said that I had the egg reserve of someone in their 20s and that my numbers were all normal.  We did three failed rounds of IUI (we have no insurance coverage or extra money for IVF).  I got pregnant 18 months later naturally at age 41 and got a great heartbeat at the ultrasound, but this pregnancy ended in miscarriage too (trisomy 13).  A few months later, I had a chemical pregnancy.  That was 2 years ago, and I have had nothing since, my period comes like clockwork every month (got it again today -- yay!).  I am now 43 and I regret not trying sooner.  I noticed that all of the "smart" people who got married in their mid-30s like us started to try right away and they were all able to have 2,3, or 4 kids during a short window.  Many of my friends have had kids in their 40s.  I guess I never thought that I would only be given 5 years to have all of the children I was ever going to have.  But then I think that if we would have started earlier, we may not have gotten the wonderful crazy combination of genes that came together to produce my DD.  I just feel like such a failure that I can't give her a sibling and I hope that she doesn't resent me for it someday.  All of the kids in her preschool class have siblings and I get questions all the time about "Is she your only one?"             [/quote]

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